Can we hurt a Giver? Of course, but we tend to not even think about that. In the presence of a Divine Giver, we are usually all about taking, so deep is our need, hunger and selfishness. But a Giver is human, something that we tend to forget as long as we are getting something.
We are all ‘for’ the Giver giving when it is coming our direction, which is our twisted version of being ‘for’giving - which is really all about being ‘for’ getting - and we wonder why we are so forgetful. We are very quick to tell a Giver that they must give ‘no matter what’, and very slow to be concerned over their heart, their health and their needs.
The following is from a recent post comment, and is from one of my teacher’s students. The insights shared here, while talking specifically about our teacher, are applicable and true of any Divine Giver.
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Because I have worked with Sensei as well, I can shed a little light on the issue “I was going to ask if you had further thoughts on being careful with a giver. Can somebody take more than is given and hurt the giver?” I have seen it first hand, in fact I do it regularly.
Sensei gives 24/7 and his students, including me, take from him regularly without giving back. That is somewhat to be expected when you start out because you are clueless. But the more towards center you move, the more responsibility you have. Now you KNOW, and you can’t act like you don’t.
When you do act like you don’t (know), you are hurting your giver. It is extremely painful when the giver gets slapped in the face with their giving. When you see the truth and know in your heart of hearts it is the truth, and you turn your back on it, you hurt the giver. So (the giver has) to dig even deeper to find another way to show the truth so it is better accepted. It is exhausting to the giver, yet they do it anyway because their purpose is giving.
Can you take more than is given? I know you can take and take and take until the giver’s energy is sapped. Then they need down time to recharge. But they do recharge and just start giving again. However, if you don’t advance, they may elect to focus their giving on a more worthy acceptor - someone who gives a little back, someone who will run that circuit that has been discussed [in previous posts] and bring back something of higher value than what they started with. Even if it is a smidge, it is [or may be] enough to recharge that giver.
As Mark has indicated, Sensei can be very direct - very direct. But he is also ecstatic when you get even the smallest improvement and showers you with praise - it is worth the discomfort of the directness. I don’t mean to speak for Sensei, but this is what I have observed.
- Gretchen Coleman at Erronia
