The value of a life

If you want to measure the value of a person’s life, look at the affect of their life on their world, on the people in their life. Look into their close relationships. Look at how they make other’s feel about themselves.

There is no need to wait until we die to stand before the so-called Seat of Judgment. It is all happening right now, in plain view.

Communication and the Art of Giving

Take a jump over to Transforming Communication where James Souttar applies the concepts and principles of The Art of Giving to the process of communication, discussed in his post Communication and Giving.

We have been discussing these principles here for the last month or so. The best way to learn deeper principles is to both study them and to also apply them to our everyday life situations. The principles discussed on this site are universal principles that have enormous power to transform lives and life. The more ways we find to apply and integrate principles, the quicker we learn and the deeper and more comprehensively we can become aligned to their power. Application is the key.

The Art of Giving Series

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James Souttar is a communications consultant and designer based in Great Britain. For over twenty years he has worked with organisations ranging from government departments to entrepreneurial start-ups, banks to charities, universities to trades unions, integrating new thinking from the sciences as well as ideas from traditional psychologies.

lessons on giving back to the source

Following my last post. I had a series of lessons with my teacher. There are several things I have harvested out of those lessons, including:

- when we return a portion of the appreciated value to the source, the loop keeps running, but more importantly it has an opportunity to grow in value;

- it is wise to find and give back to a source that can return compound value, because an accelerated effect can occur;

- having someone truly appreciate your value, and do that over and over and over, can become very uncomfortable, because we are not used to unconditional giving; unconditional giving eventually forces us to confront our selfishness, biases and insecurities;

- there is an aspect of going back to the source that can give us a feeling of admonishment when we approach and interact with the source, but that is because of our biases and our position of not being centered in the moment.

This post began as a draft post, which I asked my teacher to review. Following his review, there were several other lessons that took place before I finally felt ready to make a final pass at the post.

Note: This is a publicly posted lesson between student and teacher, a continuation of lessons on a series called The Art of Giving.

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About a week ago, Gretchen and I were with Sensei for a few hours. We had just left a community meeting, in which a lot of negativity was being thrown about. Negativity has powerful effects on our thinking, on how we interact with each other and with our problems, and on our personal growth. It can also distort and affect the messages and instructions from a teacher, because it grounds out the circuit of conductivity by introducing a greater amount of resistance due to the prominence we give to our personal biases. We can see this in our lives very easily, for example, when one negative person can often ground out an entire group of people.

During the lesson, we were talking about how using the Principles of Giving in that negative meeting had brought about improved results. As our lesson continued, Sensei kept building the source value so that I could better understand how gratitude should be working. There were many other elements to that lesson, and I came out of it with a determination to write a post. This time, however, after I wrote my draft post I asked my teacher to review it.

When his written comments came back, there were some things I saw as valuable, there were also some inner reactions I had, and there were some other things that weren’t apparent. Those unapparent things came out in further discussions and also when a few nights later we discussed the same concepts with a group of Great River Jiu Jitsu students following an evening marital arts class. The more often we met or talked, the deeper the insights I received into how to effectively return a portion of the appreciated value back to the source.

This brings out an important point: we tend to read or hear deeper lessons and go, “Okay, I get it.” I do this too often. But the fact is we don’t get it, because we are typically in too big a hurry to show that we are ‘getting it’, or we are too caught up in our biases to realize there is something beyond our biases.

In the first instance, we like to demonstrate all we know, or we enjoy talking about our understandings on the topic, instead of shutting up and listening. Even when we shut up and listen, and actually harvest a piece of deeper value, we sometimes make that piece the quintessential point. That can often be a good thing, but many times we walk away with our new piece of information, never realizing that the teacher had a far deeper point for us to obtain. Fortunately, I have a teacher who understands this, and he graciously keeps plugging away, giving students ample opportunities to learn.

In the case of our biases, we can get the whole ‘deer in the headlights’ look when we are brought to a certain tripping point. We can too easily get stuck in our conditioned behavior, sometimes to the point where everyone else can see an obvious thing about us, but viewed through the constant lenses of our biases nothing appears abnormal whatsoever. But that is not always the case. There are times when we are able to ovecome our biases and transcend our normal lives as we center and immerse ourselves inside the field of superconductivity. That’s when things can really sizzle.